Do you remember that phrase from that really annoying TV quiz? Well I do, but I want to talk about it with a slightly different twist.You know, you’re upset about something or someone and you think to yourself, “If I go quiet then they will notice and realise I am unhappy and ask me why and tease it out of me and then comfort me and make me feel better.” In your dreams, and just for the record, somebody else’ nightmare! Life is not the movies! You don’t stand, enigmatically, looking out of the window, whilst clutching at the silk drapes, a lace hanky dabbing at your nose and then have the hero somehow read your mind, come over to you, putting a strong arm around you and tell you everything will be all right. REAL LIFE = You standing looking out of the window while the “hero” shouts, “Where are my underpants?” His version of reading your mind? ” She’s being a moody bitch again.” Sorry men; cheap shot; true, but cheap! Anyway, this isn’t really about male vs female. It’s about us all. None of us have the time or energy to figure out what’s going on in the mind of those around us. If you’re anything like me, I can’t even figure out my own mind. So, when we are faced with someone being quiet, withdrawn, not speaking to us, we don’t immediately think, ” Oh, maybe X has happened and she/he needs me to do Y.” Do we bollocks! No! We think, ” There they go, being a moody cow/git again.” We Say What We See. So ask; ask for help or understanding, whatever it is you need. When people find out your “mood” is not their fault they are usually very relieved and happy to console or listen; but ask. Give others their comfort zones and you may be amazed with what you get in return.